co-dependence flip that shizzz

the other night while teasing one of my good male friends about his being trained like a puppy by his girlfriend, the idea came up by some random female that he possibly wasn't man enough to take "the next step", i.e. get married.

when it comes to relationships, why is it that there has to be that "next step"? don't get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing. but it's not something that anyone should be forced to do. how you going to threaten some poor dude's manhood on that shit? if he's not ready, he's not ready. and if homegirl can't handle that, move on no?

apparently i'm jaded. that's the classic retort i get every time i get into how "the next step" isn't necessary in matters of the heart.

i'll do them one better. these girls (there is a specific type. i'm not going to entertain you with my trashy interpretation of them): if they spent half the time they spend treating their dudes like shit or waiting for them to get on one knee with a rock & a wedding that'll give them bad credit (hello worst economy ever), these same girls would have another degree, make more money, learn a new hobby, volunteer for a good cause...

or better yet, get on a plane to some foreign digs, learn a new language, and meet some hot foreign dudes. i mean, the possibilities for self-empowerment, good complexion, and great sex are endless!

i.e., take the goddamn "next step" with yourselves, chicas.

por favor for real though.


morning wake-up.

stevie cat loves to drink from the faucet.

q said she was getting "cabin fever".
we tested out her new parapluie.

chilling with mia & ryry in j.town.

landon & i made a legos star wars battleship.

"mommy, i know that guy!"



huge sunday brekkies.

design by frozen yogurt.

pacific beach love.


for the record, i'm not so much jaded as i am broken-hearted.